Aries is moving away from Gemini
posted: Mar 2, 01:29 AM
I have come to the conclusion that just when I think I’ve got myself figured out something happens to remind me I’m getting ahead of myself! Actually, many things happen on a daily basis to remind me of this, but some of life’s bigger events slam this awareness in my face!
My middle sister, Aries, with whom I am close, has moved out of the province. She left today in the middle of a major snow storm to begin a new phase of her life. This phase comes at significant emotional cost, however, and I suspect she will continue to pay dearly for a change she felt compelled to embark upon.
Knowing how tough this move is for her, I do not want to burden her with my sadness at “losing” her. So, lucky you, I’m writing in an attempt to gain perspective.
Aries and I journeyed to the relationship we have today. We have not always been close, but when we became parents we became friends. Our friendship has grown significantly over the past few years and I now consider my sister to be one of my closest friends.
In the last few years Aries has traveled frequently for business. This coupled with her family life has kept her very busy. She and I have often discovered several weeks have passed and we have not connected. Then we would plan a Gemini and sister movie date. A Facebook quiz told us we are movie soul mates. We didn’t really need anyone to inform us of this fact. We know we like the same movies! It was fun though to have it confirmed by an outside source. (I’m being funny).
Everything has changed. I won’t be able to phone her to make a movie date for the weekend. Our family dinners won’t happen just because. And, what about Christmas, Easter and Thanksgiving dinners? I am having great difficulty processing how I will muddle through not having her relatively near me.
These traditional family events are symbols of our familial relationship and our shared history. She is the person, aside from my Mother, who has known me “forever”. I think it is this security which I will miss most.
My Mother needs nurturing. My sister and I offer each other the nurturing which adults still need, but often don’t receive.
I know I will come to terms with Aries moving. I will be here to support her long distance as she adjusts to her new life. We will establish new traditions and share many more meaningful moments. Right now, I’m sad. I probably will be sad for awhile and will just have to accept sadness is as much part of life as happiness.